![]() ![]() ![]() As a woman, when I first read this stuff, I felt a strong instinct to defend my gender but then I’m reminded that she too, identifies as a woman. Forget what science says, forget what evidence says, I’ve-experienced-this-so-it-cannot-be-anything-else-but-true type of thinking. We live in times where as long as you have lived experience of the issue that you’re talking about, you gain the right to never be invalidated. Like an experienced surgeon, in one swift, painless motion, Perel splits you open and shows you how gender equality too, comes with its own set of consequences, and how some of them have invaded your bedroom. It’s admirable, for instance, how she reveals to the feminists that their decaying sex life might be a result of their own doing. What’s fascinating is the finesse with which Perel does it. Written by the Belgian-American therapist Esther Perel, this book is a bold attempt to throttle most of the assumptions that are popularly held about love, sex and relationships. Mating in Captivity takes all of your intuitions about how relationships should work, and then flings them straight into the garbage bin. Okay, so if you wrote equality and freedom and trust and security and all the other values inscribed in your Constitution, then Mating in Captivity is the overhaul that your over-cultured brain needs. ![]()
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